Ever listened to someone define anxiety in precisely the way that it changed it fully?
I won’t forget sitting in class and having my master coach say to everybody, “Now a lot of things are going to change in your life, and this can bring up some agitation, but just think of this anxiety as new things happening.”
New things occuring? I haven't ever thought of it like that before. When we actually get down to define anxiety in a strict sense, it’s a feeling of worry or uneasiness about a situation which has a little bit of uncertainty surrounding it. What could actually happen next? What will the end result be? In a way, anxiety is a fantastic indicator of forward thinking or “row boat thinking,” a phrase I have recently coined.
What is the definition and the thought behind “row boat thinking?”
Each of us are supplied with a interesting account all thoughout our lives that sounds a lot like this…”I’ll be happy when this occurs. It’ll all turn out when I arrive there.” The problem is, we are rowing to this island that does not exist. We think it’s there, but it’s one of the most beautifully manufactured mirages we have ever seen. It’s sexy. It’s beguiling. It’s just enough to keep us grasping and thirsting for more. But there’s real danger in this sort of thinking meaning that anxiousness can be our best indicator that we are basically caught in the activity of doing it in the first place.
Living in the future can have as many negative complications as living in the past. Everyone knows what it’s like to need to run from our past, but I am going to hazard to say that we should avoid living in the future as much. We can get stuck in some place, a very uncertain place, that honestly is beyond control. Should you set targets and have a dream for what you desire out of your life? Positively. But the danger is building the basis of your happiness on such a place.
The one guarantee I can make you about this life is that it’ll change. You can't go to the past, the present is changeable at any moment and the future is to be experienced.
So what are we able to do?
That uncertainty…love it. Embrace the hell out of it. The doubtful places in your life are chances to have nothing short than delightful magic happen. Do you really know what is going to pop up? Absolutely not. Will you attempt to project as much as possible? Yes, we’ve all done that haven’t we? But when you start returning to the present moment, constantly because our minds never stop getting distracted, you get to totally be here. Here really is a great spot to be. Start basically seeing what is happening around you rather than spending too much time distracting yourself from everything that isn’t right here and now.
So all stress really is, when it really boils down to it, is new things taking place. Love that feeling and sit with it. Really take a little time to truly feel the chaos in your gut and then take a moment to start to comprehend why it’s coming up. “In this moment, what is the thing that’s going down right now that’s honestly new?” When you start to do that, well, things become more fun. But when you stop living in the future , the uneasiness starts to vanish altogether.
It\’s all about how we define anxiety to start with.
Evan Sanders is the author and creator of The Words Of Encouragement a website dedicated to bringing encouraging words to all those who are in need of some help, whether that ranges from helping people define anxiety to providing them with strong powerful quotes about life so they can continue to chase their dreams.